What is Facebook and what is it’s purpose?
We say: Facebook is an application, service or piece of software which runs on hundreds and thousands of machines, computer servers in air-conditioned computer rooms all over the world.
It’s purpose it to make money through advertising and to collect and store personal information.
This from http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Facebook
Facebook is an online social networking service, whose name stems from the colloquial name for the book given to students at the start of the academic year by some university administrations in the United States to help students get to know each other. It was founded in February 2004 by Mark Zuckerberg with his college roommates and fellow Harvard University students Eduardo Saverin, Andrew McCollum, Dustin Moskovitz and Chris Hughes. The website’s membership was initially limited by the founders to Harvard students, but was expanded to other colleges in the Boston area, the Ivy League, and Stanford University. It gradually added support for students at various other universities before opening to high school students, and eventually to anyone aged 13 and over. Facebook now allows any users who declare themselves to be at least 13 years old to become registered users of the site.
So it was created to replace the paper based student “facebook” that was used in universities. This was it’s target audience, an audience that recognized the behaviours it fostered right at the very beginning.
“there are plenty of other primal instincts evident at work here (within Facebook) an element of wanting to belong, a dash of vanity and more than a little voyeurism.” “And competitiveness was immediately in evidence. From TheFacebooks first day, some users thought of it more as a way to accumulate the largest possible number of friends than to communicate and gather useful information.”
Bearing this in mind it was then opened up to anyone 13 and older in 2006. How do you think the 13 year olds…………..your 13 year olds or young teens are managing these primal instincts? How many 13 year olds would need to use a college facebook anyway? Then how many parents and grandparents would need to use a college facebook?
So what is Facebooks Mission?
Facebook’s mission is to give people the power to share and make the world more open and connected. https://www.facebook.com/facebook/info
With this as their mission do you really believe that they care about privacy? Read their mission again very carefully. They highlight the most dangerous aspects of this “service”. “to give people the power to share and make the world more open and connected“. Make the world more open – they don’t want you to use privacy settings. That is why they keep “making updates” where you have to again take steps to make your info only available to friends and not the public. They are doing this on purpose to engineer it’s users into being more open, so eventually they don’t care that everything is public. Do you share more now than you did in the past? “give people the power to share” Share what? Anything you want, whenever you want 24/7.
All kinds of things are being “shared” within Facebook. PARENTS YOU MUST WATCH THIS VIDEO
Are people showing self control, respect for the feelings or privacy of others? Let’s be honest this is a power that is not being used but abused by a large number of the 1 Billion+ users.
“Responsible” people keep making mistakes with their power to share. We see it so often in the media. Mistakes that are harming many many relationships. When we consider all the genuine and good people on Facebook who are not coping it makes us wonder about the 83 million accounts that may be fake.!
So as parents in this cyber world do you ever wonder what impact any of this is having on our children, relationships and families. Is Facebook helping us to become better people, or just more open?And then open with what?
Parents how are you going monitoring your children’s 300+ “friends”? If the typical teenager is spending around 2 hours on Facebook a day you would have to spend about the same amount of time just to keep up right? How are you going with that? Oh you have more than one child on Facebook…………..good luck with that.
Oh but your responsible and concerned with the amount of time they spend on the net and so you have parental controls in place to filter porn sites and other nasties. You get your reports and alerts and everything is looking pretty good. The kids never try to access porn or that kind of thing. They are on Facebook all the time so they wouldn’t have the time for anything else anyway.
Well here is some news for you. If you filter the internet, everything else, but not Facebook, you are wasting your time.
What are the top 5 search terms your kids are searching for online?
Do any of these searches work within Facebook it’self?
Let’s try something, let’s search for girls. Do you think a 13 year old girl or boy would perform a search like this? Of course………… (you don’t even need a Facebook account to do this!!)
Search results provide Porn, nude girls or suicide girls. Please understand if you are happy for anyone in your family to use and access Facebook then you must also be happy for them to be able to access this kind of information, in your lounge room, by themselves in their bedroom any time of the day or night, on their school provided iPad or iPhone you gave them for their birthday etc. Remember that you pay for the internet access that allows them access to this “service”. Our concern is for those 13 year olds who hear “Happy birthday here is your Facebook log on”, who then stumble across content that would normally be blocked by an internet filter, content that in the past was always restricted to adults, and find they have lost their innocence. Facebook sex page alarms school by shaming kids as young as 13!
Then you have those “responsible” parents who think they can actually “police’ Facebook sharing information like this.
You have got to be joking. Just how are you keeping them safe?
Facebook has given over a Billion users the POWER to share anything they want 24/7. In reality what we have is a service full of the very best and very worst the world has to offer, no one can police or monitor content from so many people, ever………..and it is growing. Facebook accused of being lax on child porn
But why only be concerned about the children. How does this “service” impact on a couple who are going through a rough patch as couples always do? What about someone confused about their sexual identity when they see sponsored ads like those below? Come on you all see them. Do they appear on a sex offenders/predators personal Facebook page? What about a nun or priest, can these sponsored ads lead them or any of us into temptation?
Oh that’s right you can find this kind of content and much worse all over the internet, but that is the thing, with Facebook you don’t need to. While you can access other content via other websites you cannot build relationships with others, interact and share with them the way you can on Facebook. And that is the problem.
Remember Facebook’s mission is to give us the power to share. Here on Facebook you are the judge, jury executioner and sovereign publisher of anything you want to share. How did everyone suddenly become qualified to know what content is and is not appropriate to publish in the public domain? How many relationships, marriages and families have been torn apart because of the misuse of this power?
Social networking was cited in over a third of divorce filings last year http://www.viralblog.com/social-media/facebook-social-media-and-divorce/
Facebook Responsible for a Fifth of Divorces in Wales http://www.ibtimes.co.uk/articles/452598/20130402/facebook-fifth-divorce-reasons-wales-jcp-solicitors.htm
Facebook Relationship Problems: How Social Networking And Jealousy Affect Your Love Life http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/09/09/facebook-relationship-problems-social-networking_n_955980.html
Do we really need to say anything more?
How much do you need to see to know that the good does not outweigh the bad on Facebook? That this cyber world was never intended for children. It is an adult world that presents the very best and very worst that the world has to offer. It is a world where children are not yet mature enough to cope with the content that it provides, but then the mature members are not coping with it either.
If you remain a member of Facebook you are supporting this “service” and everything that goes with it.
Please take back your life, protect your family and relationships